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Grapevine : August 2010
What happened was that five older guys (my dad's friends) took me under their wing. None of them seemed impressed with what I had to say, and they were far less impressed with what I was thinking. They prac- ticed ego deflation at depth on me. After six or seven months, a little bit of hope crept into my life. Maybe if I just continued to follow the sugges- tions that these guys were giving me, I could stay sober too. Right after my first year I got a call from my youngest brother. He was away at college and found himself in some trouble. My other sober broth- er and I went to see him. His drink- ing was out of control and he wanted to stop. He was 18, and had watched what had happened to us and didn't want to go down that road. We took him to a meeting. When the semes- ter was over and he returned home, we brought him around to the lo- cal meetings, where he began to get active. He talked about how hard it was to be honest when everyone knows your family and expects you to be as sober as they are. A woman started coming to our group around the same time as my brother. She was a piece of work! She was in the middle of a messy divorce, worked as a waitress and bartender, and had attitude writ- ten all over her. I was sure that she was going to end up drinking and I wanted nothing to do with her. But after a year and a half we began to talk a little and found that we had much more in common than either of us thought. We began dating and eventually got married. A few years after I'd come into the program, my sister began to let stories slip about how much her hus- band was drinking, and some prob- lems that were beginning to pop up. His life had all the earmarks of an alcholic life. Finally my sister had enough and asked him to leave. He decided to come to AA in the hopes of saving the marriage. Their rela- tionship has gotten better. It still catches me off guard when we talk about how God works in our lives today. We never argue about the out- come of our surrender anymore. A year after my father helped my brother-in-law into AA, my father got a call from my aunt: Would he be willing to talk with her new husband about his drinking? He didn't think going to AA was a bad thing. He just didn't see the point in it. Still, after talking with my father he began to attend a few meetings regularly. Shortly after that he stopped drink- ing. He continues to attend meetings and he no longer wants to drink. My sister-in-law also got sober over the next few years. Then my daughter began to have troubles with alcohol. There were a few instances that worried me, but Grapevine 19