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Grapevine : April 2011
meeting we will do Step Five. He will complete all three Steps (Five, Six and Seven) on that day. is inventory process takes four weeks to complete. e sponsee and I have four meetings, and I have broken down each week's assignment into doable tasks. I have found it is essential that the sponsee is very clear on what he has to do next and that he only focuses on the task at hand. Sometimes I ask him to repeat what he will be do- ing that week so there is no misunderstanding. is process is simple, has momentum and a sense of urgency. e Step is spiritual in nature and, I believe, can be completed by any human being with guidance and a degree of willingness. Billy D. Los Gatos, Calif. me to follow the example and start writing down my re- sentments. I hadn't heard any horror stories about the dif- ficulty of the Fourth Step yet, about people getting drunk when they put it o . I couldn't figure out how writing down my resentments would constitute a fearless and thorough moral inventory, but I was willing to do it any- way. I hadn't known the great relief I'd feel a er doing the Fi h Step with my sponsor, even if she had to help me figure out what most of my own wrongs were. My first taste of se- renity followed. Holding onto re- sentments steals my serenity every time. However, I some- times still don't see them developing---I frequently exert an uncanny ability to decide I'm just think- ing about something rather than admit it's a resentment. My first sponsor used to say, "Don't think," and that's some of the best ad- vice I've ever heard in AA. Here's one way to find out you have a huge resentment against somebody: See the guy at church. Ouch. Dealing with resentments is not an easy task and I'm learning that it's much easier to do a daily Tenth Step. at way, I'm promptly admitting my wrongs and not putting my sobriety at risk, leaking nega- tivity onto people I actually like, not to mention taking up my sponsor's valu- able time for yet another Fi h Step. I know finishing this Fourth will be worth it. It always is. ere are other gi s, beside the relief that comes with no longer car- rying such a heavy load. e Steps that follow have actually removed some of my more glaring charac- ter defects, allowing me to be a better friend, worker, sister and daughter. Needless to say, I trudge the road of happy destiny, rather slowly sometimes. Doing the next right thing means finish- ing this Fourth Step--- and being willing to admit my wrongs so I can get my serenity back! Ariel M. Tucson, Ariz. It isn't entirely accurate to sayIhavea resentment. e reality is that I have a list about five pages long. aagrapevine.org 25