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Grapevine : September 2011
ing supply of booze. I had no reason to quit. I also had no self-esteem and no family support. As long as I was drinking, the family dysfunction continued and at least I would not be an outcast. I kept in touch with my evalu- ator, also a therapist. When I was ready to quit drinking several years later, I called and she gave me the name of a woman who would become my first sponsor. I started going to AA meetings. My sponsor picked me up for my first seven meetings. I was young, especially for AA in the early '80s, and terrified. ItwasnobigshocktomethatI became an outcast from my family when I did finally quit. My parents continued to drink around me so I was not able to attend many fam- ily functions. This didn't change until I had enough sobriety under my belt, which I attained by going to AA meetings, working a good program, doing the Twelve Steps, talking to my sponsor and going to therapy, when needed. My family still drink their ex- pensive alcohol, but we've come a long way and have a pretty healthy relationship. As long as I don't tell any of their friends I am an alcoholic, everyone gets along fine. They know I go to AA meetings and celebrate my birthday every year, but they never ask, so we don't talk about it. I have 24 years of continuous sobriety through AA, without inpa- tient, outpatient or any other day treatment programs. I attend AA meetings, do service, reach out to people in need and take life one day at a time. It works when you work it, and I work it. I still call that therapist from time to time and neither I nor my parents have ever brought up that day, many years ago, when I was de- nied treatment. Rochelle L. Portland, Ore. Discussion topic The evaluator at the treatment center told her parents, "Your daughter has a serious problem and needs inpatient treatment, today." e author of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," describes her family's denial of the seriousness of her a ic- tion even in the face of lost jobs and a near-death experience. She became an outcast from her family when she began to go to meetings. Nearly 25 years a er she got sober, they still don't talk about it. How have you, or members of your group, experienced sobriety as social taboo? Have you ever found yourself getting sober despite others rather than for others? You may use this topic at a discussion meeting, or share your experience on the I-Say bulletin board, www.aagrapevine.org aagrapevine.org 37