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Grapevine : December 2011
The older one, on the other hand, needs less direction and in- struction. I need to respect the fact that he (unlike the younger one) re- ally does know what he has to do, since this isn’t his first go-around with the program. I’m his third sponsor. He just needs to be con- vinced that someone his and my age can benefit from AA’s Twelve Steps. We met one Sunday when he heard me speak at an open meet- ing. Clearly shaking still from the abstinence of alcohol, he told me right after that meeting he could, for the first time, really relate to my story, and wanted the “apparent” serene happiness he heard in my voice that morning (attraction). He asked me to sponsor him shortly after, and we both have benefited from our relationship ever since. He has, on numerous occasions, acted as my sponsor, ever remind- ing me of when I’m not following my own advice. Just another good reason to sponsor someone. As a sponsor, I am but a guide; I guide them just as I was guided. I get them to meetings, I get them to make coffee, to chair meetings, to do district service work—and then I let go and let my Higher Power and the program take over. It’s kind of like pushing your kid on his first two-wheel bike, running alongside him until you finally let go, and he then cruises along on his own. It’s a feeling not to be missed, a feeling of immense pride and joy, something I would highly recom- mend to anyone looking for “their calling” in this life-saving program of Alcoholics Anonymous. Matt S. Buffalo Grove, Ill. Love of Sponsorship Web exclusive Each week, Grapevine publishes five new stories at www.aagrapevine.org These stories and more are avail- able to online subscribers. To learn more about how to subscribe, please visit, http://store.aagrapevine.org There are many different ways to be a good sponsor in AA. In one story online, “An Ordinary Woman,” a rural Mississippian recalls a sponsor who had a gentle but firm hand, a lot of love, and who led by example. In another, “I Was So Dry, I Was a Fire Hazard,” a Florida man remembers finally getting a sponsor who got him to work on the Steps right away so he could get some much-needed relief. Other stories have themes of trust, courage and just learning to show up. aagrapevine.org 45 GRAPE_43-45.indd 45 10/28/11 4:08 PM